Believe in Your Dreams
Never give up. I’ve used this philosophy on the court and in life for a lot of years. When I told my husband I was going to write a book, he said, “What do you mean, you don’t write?” He was right, but I knew after Mark died, after I struggled to go on living and to find happiness again, after that journey, I knew I would share my experience in a book. It wasn’t easy. I spent nearly ten years writing my memoir, taking writing classes, going to workshops and putting pen to paper, and then came the hard part, getting published.
Fifteen years into this writing journey, my kids have moved through preschool, elementary school, middle school and as of last week one is now in high school. My hair has grayed (though you can’t usually tell because it’s highlighted blonde) and my Bampa, my grandpa and a huge inspiration to my writing life, has passed on. Much time has gone by, but I never gave up, and on October 16th my memoir Back on the Court will be released.
Do you have a dream that seems beyond your reach? A goal too lofty? Nonsense, if there is something you strive to achieve, believe in your heart that you will do it, and never give up!
Human Nature Connection
Recently I shot with photographer Tim McGuire for his Human Nature Connection project. We had planned on shooting for a couple hours on Tiger Mountain and ended up hiking and shooting there and then driving over to Little Mt Si for several more hours. An amazing day.
I was drawn to Tim’s project because, as much as I enjoy my time in the gym, nature has often been my savior in life, giving me a chance to sweat, breath and open my mind. I feel at peace there and seek it out it times of stress. I’ve included an except from my book BACK ON THE COURT about one of those times. To see more of Tim’s Human Nature photos go to Tim McGuire Images.
excerpt from BACK ON THE COURT…
I can feel the tension that’s been building over the past months escape with every mile and every tear. The tears are all but gone by the time I reach the lodge at Paradise and when I see that the snow pack is low enough for me to reach with a short hike, I gather myself, and head up the mountain. There is something in nature that for me helps relieve tension, and at the same time helps me feel closer to Mark. My dad has climbed Mt. Rainer many times and grew up near the Austrian Alps. Maybe that’s why I’m drawn to the mountains, […]
BOOK LUST – Win a free PeaceLoveBasketball T-shirt!
I’m always looking for new basketball books to read. Coaching Philosophy, Skills & Drills, Memoir, Novel. My husband and I just finished the novel BLIND YOUR PONIES by Stanley Gordon West. Six young boys and their basketball coach give their small community something to believe in. It was a great read. A bit on the long side for me (though my 14 year old daughter breezed through it) I truly enjoyed the journey. I have several basketball books that I recommend at the Reading Room section of my website sonyaelliott.com, and I would love to get your opinion on more to check out.
To be entered in a drawing to win a free PeaceLoveBasketball T-shirt, and give fellow blog followers potential summer reads, jot down the title (and author if you know it) of a Basketball related book that you recommend in the comment section below.
Good luck and happy summer reading!
(Drawing ends July 31-suggestions can still be added to comments after that date, but participant will not be added to drawing. Participant may recommend more than one book but will only be entered once in drawing)
Just be
I’m too old for Cattle Calls. That’s what we in the modeling industry call a casting for a job with tons of people trying out. I’ve been modeling long enough now that by the time I see a client they have narrowed their choice down to two or three possible models via the Internet. But last week I watched as one by one, girls half my age, strutted into a casting and I thought, “What the hell am I doing here?”
I have learned to ignore my initial reaction. This is another area in my life where basketball has helped me by teaching me to be courageous in times of nervousness or fear. With modeling it’s not so much the competition as the fear of not being good enough, young enough, thin enough, tall enough. Being too muscular, too small, too blonde, not blonde enough. Over the years I have learned that I cannot be what every client wants me to be, so it’s better just to be me. (okay, well maybe a dressed up version of me) J
“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” ~Judy Garland
Meet Sonya
Meet Sonya
Sonya Elliott’s memoir, Back on the Court: A Young Woman’s Triumphant Return to Life, Love & Basketball, is her story of finding hope in the wake of tragedy after she and her fiancé were hit by a train. She blogs about writing, basketball, and life and is currently working on a Young Adult Novel and a Non-Fiction Coaching book. Stories of her career as a fashion model are woven through her memoir, as both the Soloflex and Easy Spirit Shoes commercials were filmed during that time period, and this unique and intriguing business continues to be a part of her life.
Sonya played basketball at Eastern Washington University and was a starter for the Big Sky Champion team that went to the 1987 NCAA tournament. She coached for almost 25 years and was voted Seattle Times Coach of the Year, Seattle Officials Women’s Basketball Association Coach of the Year, and twice voted Metro League Coach of the Year. She loves the game of basketball and is thankful, not only for her husband and kids but for her ability to continue to get back on the court.
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Monday’s Pen to Paper: Saving Memories
I love taking pictures.
But I have a real problem that’s arisen these days due to my digital camera. I don’t know what to do with all the images. I have taken so many photos, that my computer will no longer download them because it’s memory is full. (This is not a good thing).
I want the images on my computer, because that is where I have the program to make photo books. (That I’m about 6 years behind on.) Sometimes I wish I could return to a time with no technology. Back before pagers. Back when life was simple. Of course then I wouldn’t get so many great pictures. Pictures when people’s eyes are actually open and pictures when the lighting is just right.
I have put my camera away and vowed to finish some photo albums. And until I can splurge for a […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: Off The Grid
I was off the grid for two and a half weeks. I loved it.
I suppose it didn’t hurt that I was on an adventure in Africa, but not being connected, allowed me to really enjoy my time there. Be in the moment. Not worry about my emails and phone messages and texts. Just see, hear, smell, taste, feel. Live.
I did miss the opportunity to share what I was experiencing with my family. No texting photos every few seconds. Look, a lion. A hippo. A leopard. A Crocodile. But on my return I snuggled up on the couch with them and shared photos and video clips which was even better.
The time with no electronic connection was peaceful, energizing, inspiring. Had it not been 110 degrees it would have been the perfect environment to write and one I’d like to mimic from time to […]
PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Mix it up
Often my son has been the youngest on a team. A young 7th grader on the basketball court with a bunch of 8th graders. A small kid playing tackle football with kids twice his size. This can be a good learning experience, but it can also be hard on ones ego.
He’s managed to hold his own, but this fall he is playing flag football and ultimate frisbee with a bunch of friends his age and it is fun to watch him play. To watch as the lessons in toughness, that he gained while being the youngest, now transfers to confidence and leadership on the field.
Both experiences are good for a young athlete. So remember to mix it up a little.
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