Monday’s Pen to Paper: Set New Goals To Live Your Best Life In The New Year
Photo: Tim McGuire
It’s a new year and I’m starting off 2016 with some new goals. I’m not one to make New Year’s Resolutions, but I like setting a few goals, things to work toward in the new year.
2015 was a great year and I did my best to enjoy it up to the very end. And that doesn’t mean I partied the nights away up until New Years Eve (though that could have been fun), it means I simply relished uninterrupted time with my family. My daughter was home from college, my son was out of school on winter break and my husband was off of work for the last ten days of 2105. We played board games together, went for walks, had friends over, watched basketball, watched movies, ate a lot of good food, played basketball, played music, and just plain hung out. My kind of fun, though nothing got done.
Now it’s 2016, and it’s time to get back to work and start the year off right, because during my relaxing winter break, I didn’t write, I rarely worked out, I barely cleaned, and my Inbox went through the roof. The break was awesome, but it is time to get back to real life. Which brings me back to goals, my goals, the ones I set last week and had planned to implement today, Monday, January 4th, 2016. Well, guess what? I implemented what I had planned for the start of 2016!
I won’t tell you about all of my life’s goals, but I will tell you that one goal is to put into action a scheduled weekday writing time (one that’s a little flexible, because I know myself and I know if I don’t have some flexibility in […]
PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Inspired to Work Hard
Last week I talked about hanging up my basketball shoes. It’s been a while since I’ve been able to play the way I want to play. And though I’ve found that this is how it works as I get older and don’t practice much, this feeling would hit me on occasion even when I was young. I LOVE basketball, but there were many times during my career when I went through slumps, times I literally feared the free throw line because I knew that my shot wouldn’t go in. One slump was so bad that during an overtime game against Idaho State, the entire opposing bench (including their coaches) yelled out, “foul number 10,” when they needed our team to go to the line so that they might have a chance to get the ball back.
I was #10.
It took a long time to recover from that, but the one thing that I found helped the most was, to do my best to clear my mind of the negative thoughts (that were mostly coming from me at that point), and simply keep working hard. Basketball is not an easy game and there are so many pieces that need to come together in a constantly changing environment, that it takes a lot of practice. And even with a lot of practice, you can never get everything perfect, just better. So if you’re struggling and wondering why you play this game, instead of stepping away from it, put some more time in on the court and you’ll not only improve, but you’ll find what it was that drew you to the game to begin with, why you play. It’s there that you will find inspiration.
The first time I went to see a basketball game when […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: Good Routine
Photo Credit: Jeff Zaruba
I’ve never been one for routine. Not that I wouldn’t want to have a little more of a schedule to my life but it’s just never been the type of life that I’ve led. I guess when I was playing and coaching basketball competitively there was some routine, but practices where often moved around, do to gym availability, and we were traveling with games, so there was always some change.
And though I have loved having a career as a fashion model, it is far from routine. Castings and jobs vary tremendously and often happen spur of the moment. Not conducive to a regular schedule. When I was in my 30’s I fantasized about getting up every morning and meditating and doing yoga. Having a morning ritual. But I also like sleep, and I had two young kids and for many years fought a chronic sinus infection (a story all it’s own). So, I never followed that path. I worked out when I could and had a bit of a routine of playing basketball.
When I hit my 40’s my life was pretty chaotic. I was modeling, coaching, raising (and chauffeuring) kids and writing every spare moment I could find. It was difficult to maintain any routine. I especially dreamed, and still dream, of being consistent with my writing instead of sneaking in words here and there or on writing get-a-ways. I want to write every day. And though, as I’m nearing 50, I’m not quite where I want to be, I have added somewhat of a routine to my writing life, blogging each week and meeting my friend Jenny every Thursday to write.
Day by day I plan to add more routine to my life, not a […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: One Step at a Time
I decided to take part in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) this year and, I’ll have to admit, it wasn’t the most productive first attempt. It did, however, help me to get nearly 4000 more words of my novel written. Every little bit helps.
What helps to motivate you to write? To work out? To meditate? To do those things that you want to do, but you keep putting off? Try new ways to push yourself. Take baby steps if you have to. Even if the attempt isn’t completely successful, the experience will help you grow.
WRITING PROMPT #1: Write down how you will reach your goals.
WRITING PROMPT #2: Shandra gazed at the tall peak one last time before she tied her boots up tight and…
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Meet Sonya
Sonya Elliott’s memoir, Back on the Court: A Young Woman’s Triumphant Return to Life, Love & Basketball, is her story of finding hope in the wake of tragedy after she and her fiancé were hit by a train. She blogs about writing, basketball, and life and is currently working on a Young Adult Novel and a Non-Fiction Coaching book. Stories of her career as a fashion model are woven through her memoir, as both the Soloflex and Easy Spirit Shoes commercials were filmed during that time period, and this unique and intriguing business continues to be a part of her life.
Sonya played basketball at Eastern Washington University and was a starter for the Big Sky Champion team that went to the 1987 NCAA tournament. She coached for almost 25 years and was voted Seattle Times Coach of the Year, Seattle Officials Women’s Basketball Association Coach of the Year, and twice voted Metro League Coach of the Year. She loves the game of basketball and is thankful, not only for her husband and kids but for her ability to continue to get back on the court.
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Monday’s Pen to Paper: What If The Zebras Lost Their Stripes?
This week my writing partner Jenny and I were talking about our favorite books for kids. One of my favorites growing up was Dr. Seuss’ McElligot’s Pool. Jenny had never heard of it so I ran to the basement and grabbed it. “I didn’t read much when I was young.” I told her, “but I loved this book.” And though I didn’t realize it at the time, McElligot’s Pool is about believing. Believing and dreaming of the future. And as I listened to Jenny read little Marco’s words out loud, I had forgotten how strong and clear I hear that message. I paged through the book when she was done. I had read this book a million times, and though I couldn’t have told you the little boy’s name, the one who sat holding a stick as a fishing pole, peering wide-eyed […]
PeaceLoveBasketball: Defense
I miss the gym. Basketball season is just around the corner and I’m chomping at the bit to get near a court. Both to watch and play. It’s been part of my life for so long it just doesn’t seem right to have been away for over a month.
My son had a pre-season rec-game last week and when I said I wanted to come watch, he whined and complained. He doesn’t realize that since I stepped down from coaching, I’ve been going through withdrawals. And they’ve been even worse since I injured my rotator cuff this summer, and haven’t been able to play. I miss the sound of the ball bouncing. I miss the sweat and the hustle and I miss watching and playing defense – my favorite part of the game.
Most think defense is boring, it certainly doesn’t get […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: One Word at a Time
I’m at a turning point in my life. My kids are about out of the house. I no longer coach high school basketball and I only model from time to time. I manage a couple of rental houses that keep me busy but I want to focus on writing. I do my share of writing, I blog, I’ve written a few articles and I’ve been working on my YA novel but I want to make a living writing.
Over the last couple of months I’ve read books and watched YouTube videos about being a full-time freelance writer by writing articles. I enjoy writing articles and thought, “I can do this!” But then I took a moment to think about what I really want, and I want to write books. I enjoy writing my blog and magazine articles from time to time (a recent […]
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