Monday’s Pen to Paper: Change
This is an exciting time. My daughter is about to graduate from high school, but you know what, as excited as I am for her to go off on her own and start living her own life, it’s really hitting me this week on how much I’m gonna miss her. In fact just writing about it gets me a little teary eyed.
Oh, I know she’ll be fine, I know that she will experience amazing things, and meet new friends, and grow as a person, but damn it, I like having her around.
Change is hard, I get it and know how to deal with it, but it doesn’t mean I always have to like it.
WRITING PROMPT: Write about changes that are happening in your life. How do they make you feel? How do they affect your life?
Variety is the Spice of Life: Say NO to playing select sports year-round
Say NO to playing select sports year-round.
My daughter is doing her senior project on this subject. Her instructor wasn’t crazy about the idea, but my daughter was adamant that it was an important topic and stuck to her guns. I agree. Today’s young athletes start specializing way too early and often for all the wrong reasons.
When I was young we played select sports because we loved to play. We wanted to play more and try to be the best. Today young athletes (often with pressure from their parents) play because they believe it will give them the upper hand for an athletic scholarship. But what most don’t understand is that playing one sport year round not only costs more than college itself, it often puts young athletes in harm’s way emotionally and physically.
Fact: Less than 2% of high school athletes receive an athletic scholarship to help pay for college, of those very few are full-ride scholarships.
Fact: Playing year-round sports from a young age leads to overuse injuries and burnout.
Early and continual play of a specific sport does not come with a guarantee of a college athletic scholarship, but it does come with a big price tag. Select sports teams are big business these day. Playing on a top-level team can cost between $8000-$10,000 a year. Yes, I said one year. And many parents pay for private lessons for the athletes as well. The money spent on these programs could go to their college tuition and their high school programs, many of which struggle with funding. (When I took over a head coaching position the program had $4 and 4 uniforms. This is unacceptable and another blog all its own).
I’m not saying athletes that love a specific sport shouldn’t play […]
PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Life In Triple -Threat
I had the opportunity to speak to the seniors at my old high school. And when I talked to them about setting goals and making choices, I brought basketball into the mix. It may not seem like there is a connection but let me explain.
When I play basketball my goal is to win, and in order to do that, our team must get more points than the other team. So, I play tough defense and every time I catch the ball, I catch it in triple-threat position, facing the basket (my goal). Triple-threat means I am a threat to the opponent in three ways, I can shoot, pass or drive. I must read the defense, assess my options, and make a choice. Just like I do in life.
If I’m open and in my range, I might shoot the ball. If I see my teammate cutting to the basket, I might pass her the ball for a shot, or if the defense is in my face, I might drive to the hoop. Just like in life, you look at your options and then make a choice. It may not be the perfect choice, (you may miss your shot or make a bad pass) but if you have your goal in mind, it’s okay, keep moving, try again.
It’s when you let go of your goals and dribble away from the basket, that you get into trouble. I explained to the seniors, that to me, skipping class and partying when you want to get a college degree, is like dribbling away from the basket, with your goal out of sight.
Life is about setting goals and making good choices, or like I like to think of it, catching the ball in triple-threat, ready to help my team […]
PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Time To Soar
I don’t remember having National College Declaration Day when I headed off to school. Is all the attention on this choice a good thing? I’m not sure, because it’s already a stressful time for seniors. There’s a ton of pressure to make the perfect decision on a school to attend, during a time when they are smack in the middle of taking AP tests, finals and applying for scholarships.
I know, because my daughter has been going through this over the last few months and it has been stressful. Her original college choice ended up being WAY too expensive. It had been our understanding that with merit aid, etc, the cost would be close to the University of Washington, it was not. Even with scholarships she was looking at paying $51,000 a year. We couldn’t, and wouldn’t, pay $240,000 for four years of college. We explained to her that she could buy a house with the money. And so she had to change gears which made it a little difficult at first, because in her mind, everything seemed to pale in comparison.
Some might say, that you get what you pay for. But I knew that there were other schools where my daughter could get a great education and not be burdened with huge loans after she graduated, especially since she wants to travel when she is done. So she narrowed it down to three small colleges (one of her requirements), where she could study Creative Writing and Chinese and play basketball, and then made a final decision this week.
Breathe.
I know she’s nervous, it’s a huge change, heading off to college and stepping out into this great big world on her own. But I also know that even if she has doubts and fears about this new chapter […]
Meet Sonya
Meet Sonya
Sonya Elliott’s memoir, Back on the Court: A Young Woman’s Triumphant Return to Life, Love & Basketball, is her story of finding hope in the wake of tragedy after she and her fiancé were hit by a train. She blogs about writing, basketball, and life and is currently working on a Young Adult Novel and a Non-Fiction Coaching book. Stories of her career as a fashion model are woven through her memoir, as both the Soloflex and Easy Spirit Shoes commercials were filmed during that time period, and this unique and intriguing business continues to be a part of her life.
Sonya played basketball at Eastern Washington University and was a starter for the Big Sky Champion team that went to the 1987 NCAA tournament. She coached for almost 25 years and was voted Seattle Times Coach of the Year, Seattle Officials Women’s Basketball Association Coach of the Year, and twice voted Metro League Coach of the Year. She loves the game of basketball and is thankful, not only for her husband and kids but for her ability to continue to get back on the court.
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Monday’s Pen to Paper: What Helps You Increase Your Daily Word Count
I went away to write for a couple of days and it’s amazing how much work I can get done when I don’t have laundry to do, dishes to wash and errands to run. When all I have to do is focus on my writing (And pet the cats and the chickens that were at my B-n-B). This, however, is not my every day life, so though I’m thrilled I got to bang out several chapters in my time away, I’m always striving to find ways to better forward my daily word count and “get away” on my normal schedule.
So far, going to the “office” (a coffee shop), for a few hours every day seems to be my most productive choice. What works best to keep you moving forward with you writing?
WRITING PROMPT: The black cat…
PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Are Women Coaches Bullied?
photo credit: Paul Moseley
I’ve spent over half of my life coaching and every minute was worth it. Not for the money of course, I volunteered for eighteen of the years that I coached and the others I was paid next to nothing (As you know high school coaches don’t coach for the money). But it was worth it because of the opportunity to work with the players (mostly girls) and teach them about basketball, a sport dear to my heart, and through basketball help them learn about life. How to set goals, work hard, work as a team, win and lose with grace and also how to have some fun in the process.
Over the years, my players inspired me, entertained me, and taught me to be a better coach and a better person. But coaching high school was […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: Spring has Sprung
The cherry trees are in bloom and I’m sneezing from time to time and every once in a blue moon we have some sunlight, so I’m calling it spring. And my daughter informed me that it was officially spring yesterday, so there you have it, it may not feel like it at times, but it’s official. Spring has sprung!
WRITING PROMPT #1: What does spring mean to you?
WRITING PROMPT #2: Selma couldn’t stop sneezing, she…
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