PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Inspired to Work Hard
Last week I talked about hanging up my basketball shoes. It’s been a while since I’ve been able to play the way I want to play. And though I’ve found that this is how it works as I get older and don’t practice much, this feeling would hit me on occasion even when I was young. I LOVE basketball, but there were many times during my career when I went through slumps, times I literally feared the free throw line because I knew that my shot wouldn’t go in. One slump was so bad that during an overtime game against Idaho State, the entire opposing bench (including their coaches) yelled out, “foul number 10,” when they needed our team to go to the line so that they might have a chance to get the ball back.
I was #10.
It took a long time to recover from that, but the one thing that I found helped the most was, to do my best to clear my mind of the negative thoughts (that were mostly coming from me at that point), and simply keep working hard. Basketball is not an easy game and there are so many pieces that need to come together in a constantly changing environment, that it takes a lot of practice. And even with a lot of practice, you can never get everything perfect, just better. So if you’re struggling and wondering why you play this game, instead of stepping away from it, put some more time in on the court and you’ll not only improve, but you’ll find what it was that drew you to the game to begin with, why you play. It’s there that you will find inspiration.
The first time I went to see a basketball game when […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: Good Routine
Photo Credit: Jeff Zaruba
I’ve never been one for routine. Not that I wouldn’t want to have a little more of a schedule to my life but it’s just never been the type of life that I’ve led. I guess when I was playing and coaching basketball competitively there was some routine, but practices where often moved around, do to gym availability, and we were traveling with games, so there was always some change.
And though I have loved having a career as a fashion model, it is far from routine. Castings and jobs vary tremendously and often happen spur of the moment. Not conducive to a regular schedule. When I was in my 30’s I fantasized about getting up every morning and meditating and doing yoga. Having a morning ritual. But I also like sleep, and I had two young kids and for many years fought a chronic sinus infection (a story all it’s own). So, I never followed that path. I worked out when I could and had a bit of a routine of playing basketball.
When I hit my 40’s my life was pretty chaotic. I was modeling, coaching, raising (and chauffeuring) kids and writing every spare moment I could find. It was difficult to maintain any routine. I especially dreamed, and still dream, of being consistent with my writing instead of sneaking in words here and there or on writing get-a-ways. I want to write every day. And though, as I’m nearing 50, I’m not quite where I want to be, I have added somewhat of a routine to my writing life, blogging each week and meeting my friend Jenny every Thursday to write.
Day by day I plan to add more routine to my life, not a […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: One Step at a Time
I decided to take part in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) this year and, I’ll have to admit, it wasn’t the most productive first attempt. It did, however, help me to get nearly 4000 more words of my novel written. Every little bit helps.
What helps to motivate you to write? To work out? To meditate? To do those things that you want to do, but you keep putting off? Try new ways to push yourself. Take baby steps if you have to. Even if the attempt isn’t completely successful, the experience will help you grow.
WRITING PROMPT #1: Write down how you will reach your goals.
WRITING PROMPT #2: Shandra gazed at the tall peak one last time before she tied her boots up tight and…
PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Did I Make The Team Coach?
Basketball tryouts can be tough on everyone involved. As a kid trying out for a team, you’re stressed about making sure you do your best and not allowing your nerves to affect your performance so that you can make the team. As a coach you worry about selecting teams while giving every player a fair shake with a short time period to evaluate, and as a parent you watch while your child weather’s the storm and you function as their anchor, or at least that is the hope.
If you are a player reading this blog, I wish you all the best. Take a deep breath and hit the court with intensity and a positive attitude. And no matter the result, if you give your very best, that is all that really matters. If you don’t make the team or the level of team that you thought you should, it might hurt deep in your soul, but if you gave your all, there can be no regrets. Tears and frustration maybe, but no regrets. Instead, if you love basketball, use this as fuel to work harder over the next year, or if you’re not sure if basketball is your thing, use the opportunity to try something new that peaks your interest. Use this pivotal point in your life as inspiration. What is important to you? What do you really love to do?
If you’re a parent, it’s time to support your child. Be there for them no matter what happens. If they don’t make the team it will surely be a life changing experience, so help it to be a positive one. And if your son or daughter doesn’t end up making Varsity, that’s okay, they can have fun and learn to grow […]
Meet Sonya
Meet Sonya
Sonya Elliott’s memoir, Back on the Court: A Young Woman’s Triumphant Return to Life, Love & Basketball, is her story of finding hope in the wake of tragedy after she and her fiancé were hit by a train. She blogs about writing, basketball, and life and is currently working on a Young Adult Novel and a Non-Fiction Coaching book. Stories of her career as a fashion model are woven through her memoir, as both the Soloflex and Easy Spirit Shoes commercials were filmed during that time period, and this unique and intriguing business continues to be a part of her life.
Sonya played basketball at Eastern Washington University and was a starter for the Big Sky Champion team that went to the 1987 NCAA tournament. She coached for almost 25 years and was voted Seattle Times Coach of the Year, Seattle Officials Women’s Basketball Association Coach of the Year, and twice voted Metro League Coach of the Year. She loves the game of basketball and is thankful, not only for her husband and kids but for her ability to continue to get back on the court.
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PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: AWESOME SPORTS PROJECT writing contest
Do you have a story to share about your life on the court? on the field? on a diamond? or a story about what sports have meant to you as a woman? Awesome Sports Project has published two of my articles, Court Dreams: A Life Worth Living and Can I Play? Dreaming in the Wave of Title IV , that share stories about how athletics have changed my life and the lives of other women thanks to Title IV. Awesome Sports Project is an online literary journal committed to inspiring girl’s and women’s voices in sports.
This month Awesome Sports Project launched the Awesome Sports Writing Contest, offering cash awards to youth (20 & under) and adults writing about girls’ and women’s sports. Deadline is January 15, 2017. Male and female writers of all ages (and level of writing experience) are welcome. The submission must […]
Monday’s Pen to Paper: Spread Love and Bring the Country Together
My dad is not a citizen of the United States. I like to tell people that he’s an Alien (a Legal Alien). He has lived in the United States, run a business in the United States and paid taxes in the United States for nearly 60 years, since he married my mom and moved here in the 60’s, but he cannot vote. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t have an opinion, he does, but it does mean, that even though my mom votes, we never got too caught up in politics. I grew up loving where I live and appreciating other countries and cultures.
I was in college when I could have voted for the first time but didn’t. I was busy with school, basketball and a boyfriend when George H W Bush was elected. I didn’t vote at the next presidential election either, […]
PeaceLoveBasketball Friday: Preparation is the Key to Success
It’s that time of the year. Yes, it’s fall, but more important, it’s almost basketball season. And if you are an athlete, this means it’s time to get ready to get on the court. To get in basketball shape.
Nothing but playing basketball and doing basketball drills truly gets you in shape for running the court, but there are a lot of things that can help. If you are in a fall sport like soccer, you may still be in running shape but you might want to look at finding a couple of nights a week to shoot the ball, lift weights or play at open gyms. If you are in a fall sport, like golf, you might need to do a bit more so you can start the season in good condition.
I’m a proponent of young athletes playing different sports (read more in […]
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